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Aladinsaneuk · #1 Post by **Aladinsaneuk** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 10:55 am

some of you are aware of this

http://aladsviews.blogspot.com/2009/12/ ... lk-in.html

just to let other folk know

Samray · #2 Post by **Samray** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 11:11 am

they have reassured me that I am not mad

You'll never convince us while you have that forum name.

There is nothing constructive to be said cept thanks for the heads up and good luck and very best wishes to all in coming to terms with things.

BikerGran · #3 Post by **BikerGran** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 1:06 pm

You're a biker and you're not mad? Are you sure?

Falcopops · #4 Post by **Falcopops** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 1:47 pm

We all have rows, damn if I didn't row with my wife we would bare speak at all!

Period of adjustment for all, realising and understanding is a great start.

D-Rider · #5 Post by **D-Rider** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 2:05 pm

If a big lump of wood made a change then it stands to reason another big lump of wood can make another change .... so if we're incredibly lucky and hit the right place with exactly the right force maybe, just maybe, we can reverse the first change.
I've got a big lump of wood and I'm willing to give it a go ....... after all, what are mates for ?

All the best Pete - and to your family .... and you know I don't mean what I wrote above - I'm not that helpful.

fastasfcuk · #6 Post by **fastasfcuk** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 2:37 pm

pete,your blogg is uncany, i feel i could have wrote those words myself,like you my sense of humour as gone and do'nt see any good in the world.i can't stand to be any where near my mates or in a crowd so i sit on my own. karens been great but i know i'm pushing her away,but unlike you i'm being treated by the crisis recue team with their psychologist who inform me that i am depressed and suffering from post traumatic stress disorder,which in a wierd way gives me something to build on.
thaughts are with you pete.

#7 Post by **Kwackerz** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 5:42 pm

If you sell the Falco and buy a Honda Blackbird I might start worrying...

On a more sensible note, I thought i was the only one who has been juggling issues along life's highway. Obviously not.

Im sure everything will work itself out. They usually do

Aladinsaneuk · #8 Post by **Aladinsaneuk** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 6:51 pm

thanks for the thoughts

to reiterate it - i have had an acquired brain injury that has led to a personality change - minor, but deeply disturbing

I have gone through post traumatic stress disorder - some 3 months after the event.... I was prescribed something at the time that would have also had an effect on depression - didn't do anything as it was actually a change in my brain.

What really sucks donkey cock is that over the last 6 years i have worked quite a lot with people who have had acquired brain injuries, and now i have to practise what i have preached lol.

with regards to my relationship with my wife - well, the man she met and fell in love with, effectively died - and vice versa - i love the lady to bits as she is the mother of my son - and i do care deeply for her, but there has been a change, probably from both of us - the old me had a spark i guess.... sadly gone

Falcopops · #9 Post by **Falcopops** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 9:19 pm

A new baby chages a lot of things too, so don't go accepting all the blame. Granted you have an injury that has changed you, but your life has been changed dramatically too as has your wife's.

Just offering another consideration.

Jadaris · #10 Post by **Jadaris** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 9:39 pm

When you told me you had posted something on the site I didn't expect this news so please forgive my reaction earlier, well saying that you didn't see it, I feel sorry for my partner tonight as whenever she gets me you always seem to spring things on me, she must things I'm such a cry baby or she offends me in some way lol. You're a very dear and close friend to me and I'm always here for you whenever whatever unless of course the news is that you're gay then I think I might just have something to say!!! rofl

D-Rider · #11 Post by **D-Rider** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 10:21 pm

Falcopops wrote:A new baby chages a lot of things too, so don't go accepting all the blame. Granted you have an injury that has changed you, but your life has been changed dramatically too as has your wife's.

Just offering another consideration.

Very good point Dale - circumstances change, people change, relationships change - sometimes in small ways, sometimes gradually, sometimes due to some significant external factor lie a baby or a major assault or a work situation or whatever.
We often make the mistake of assuming that everything will stay the same. I guess what counts is how we adapt. Probably these step changes are more of a challenge to adapt to.

Aladinsaneuk · #12 Post by **Aladinsaneuk** » Sun Dec 06, 2009 10:35 pm

nothing to do with my son - indeed it was those changes - son, job change etc, that led to the delay getting a diagnosis - I assumed that it was just those changes that had caused me to change

if only it had been that simple!

within 6 weeks of the assault, my mother was asking my wife, privately, if she thought i had been changed as i was not her son anymore....

Falcopops · #13 Post by **Falcopops** » Mon Dec 07, 2009 3:29 am

Aladinsaneuk wrote:nothing to do with my son

No offence meant and hopefully none taken, just offering another avenue of thought.

You being in the profession are probably pretty good at self diagnosis and seems like you're getting plenty of professional input.

I've never experienced what happened to you, but I've had a particulalry harowing experience when I was 20 and clammed up and that was a mistake. I believe talking about it helps (I didn't and I'm still not OK about it). You're talking and that's good, but are you talking to the person that matters most?

Again I'm not criticising or judging, just saying. I f**ked up big time and didn't deal with it, hope you can do better.