Not good news, but not all bad either.

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BikerGran · #1 Post by **BikerGran** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 1:32 pm

Bar’s open to raise a glass or three to my brother Peter.

I heard on Monday night he had died suddenly He was 76 in years, but quite a bit older physically, he was born deaf and with associated physical and mental development problems (he was a bit like a 76 year old teenager, but quite a grown-up one), but he's had an interesting and independent life in spite of - or maybe because of that.

He’d been unwell for a few years and last year he finally found out that he was gluten intolerant and learnt to manage that so he felt much better, and was also helped to get back in touch with my sister and me, having refused all contact for some years, and he spent a lovely Christmas at my sister's last year. His health was better, his family relationships were better, his Austin 7 Special was being restored, and he was out doing what he enjoyed - helping a neighbour with house maintenance.

He was on the neighbour's roof (only a bungalow) and didn't come down so the neighbour went to see why, and he had simply died! Terrible shock for the neighbour of course but - what a lovely way to go! Bit of a shock for us, the family, as well but it really does help to know that it was just what he would want, to go while he was still busy.

He was a character and could be good fun and I do have good memories of him but both my sister (who's 81) and I knew that as he got older neither of us could look after him because his deafness and poor understanding of the way life works made him suffer a lot of frustration which could build up to terrible rages. Not his fault, and we loved him, but knew we could not live with him - so this worry is now gone.

If you have been, cheers for reading folks, just wanted to share.

D-Rider · #2 Post by **D-Rider** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 1:45 pm

Sorry to hear that he's gone Bobbi but I can see those positives you mention - and as you say, not a bad way to go.

Best wishes to you and your sister feeling your loss and dealing with the things that need to be done.

Falcopops · #3 Post by **Falcopops** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 2:35 pm

Condolences BG. You used some lovely words to describe him and his situation.

HisNibbs · #4 Post by **HisNibbs** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 4:30 pm

Well put.

fatboy · #5 Post by **fatboy** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 5:05 pm

Its nice that you restored contact in what sadly was his last year,very nicely put BG.

Aladinsaneuk · #6 Post by **Aladinsaneuk** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 6:07 pm

Thoughts are with you

Willopotomas · #7 Post by **Willopotomas** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 7:03 pm

To slip off this mortal coil in such a manner would suit many people, including myself, absolutely perfectly. Not a single one of us asked to be here, but nobody want's people to leave now we are. Enjoy the little things as in years to come they become the bigger things..

Thoughts and condolences are with you and yours.

BikerGran · #8 Post by **BikerGran** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 8:36 pm

Thanks all - I share everything else so it felt right to share this!

flatlander · #9 Post by **flatlander** » Thu Nov 12, 2015 8:05 am

Thoughts are with you and am glad you got back together in such a positive way its worth more than words so I will stop there

Falco Frank · #10 Post by **Falco Frank** » Thu Nov 12, 2015 9:56 am

Condolences - Thoughts are with you and your family.

Gio · #11 Post by **Gio** » Fri Nov 13, 2015 4:30 pm

Thanks for sharing Bobbi, all the best to you and your sister.

DavShill · #12 Post by **DavShill** » Thu Nov 19, 2015 9:00 am

Here's to your brother Bobbi. He sounds like a great person. Bless him. Cheers.