Not good news, but not all bad either.
Posted: Wed Nov 11, 2015 1:32 pm
Bar’s open to raise a glass or three to my brother Peter.
I heard on Monday night he had died suddenly He was 76 in years, but quite a bit older physically, he was born deaf and with associated physical and mental development problems (he was a bit like a 76 year old teenager, but quite a grown-up one), but he's had an interesting and independent life in spite of - or maybe because of that.
He’d been unwell for a few years and last year he finally found out that he was gluten intolerant and learnt to manage that so he felt much better, and was also helped to get back in touch with my sister and me, having refused all contact for some years, and he spent a lovely Christmas at my sister's last year. His health was better, his family relationships were better, his Austin 7 Special was being restored, and he was out doing what he enjoyed - helping a neighbour with house maintenance.
He was on the neighbour's roof (only a bungalow) and didn't come down so the neighbour went to see why, and he had simply died! Terrible shock for the neighbour of course but - what a lovely way to go! Bit of a shock for us, the family, as well but it really does help to know that it was just what he would want, to go while he was still busy.
He was a character and could be good fun and I do have good memories of him but both my sister (who's 81) and I knew that as he got older neither of us could look after him because his deafness and poor understanding of the way life works made him suffer a lot of frustration which could build up to terrible rages. Not his fault, and we loved him, but knew we could not live with him - so this worry is now gone.
If you have been, cheers for reading folks, just wanted to share.
I heard on Monday night he had died suddenly He was 76 in years, but quite a bit older physically, he was born deaf and with associated physical and mental development problems (he was a bit like a 76 year old teenager, but quite a grown-up one), but he's had an interesting and independent life in spite of - or maybe because of that.
He’d been unwell for a few years and last year he finally found out that he was gluten intolerant and learnt to manage that so he felt much better, and was also helped to get back in touch with my sister and me, having refused all contact for some years, and he spent a lovely Christmas at my sister's last year. His health was better, his family relationships were better, his Austin 7 Special was being restored, and he was out doing what he enjoyed - helping a neighbour with house maintenance.
He was on the neighbour's roof (only a bungalow) and didn't come down so the neighbour went to see why, and he had simply died! Terrible shock for the neighbour of course but - what a lovely way to go! Bit of a shock for us, the family, as well but it really does help to know that it was just what he would want, to go while he was still busy.
He was a character and could be good fun and I do have good memories of him but both my sister (who's 81) and I knew that as he got older neither of us could look after him because his deafness and poor understanding of the way life works made him suffer a lot of frustration which could build up to terrible rages. Not his fault, and we loved him, but knew we could not live with him - so this worry is now gone.
If you have been, cheers for reading folks, just wanted to share.
